Well, once again we have been delayed. What seem to be the reality of going to Kazakhstan on time for a change has been shattered. We received an update from CB telling us that the Kazakhstan government has now decided to ensure that when a letter of invitation is done/sent that it is actually a child who has past the 7 months probation period (adoption within the country first) & that the child is actually free to be adopted out of country.... Cause it was not before???
CB added that this will cause delayes & that there was no way to know how long those delayes will be. So far none of the families that their dossiers were sent in early December got any LOI. Which means we will be greatly delayed as well although I am not sure why as we are asking for an older girl not a baby & chances are she has past the 7 months in country adoption notice long ago. But, as children comes to the Baby house at all age, one never knows...
In the meantime, we wait, again. I was hoping for a summer travel whch would have been perfect (school wise) but life is not perfect & we have to learn to live with disapointment. I guess that is what makes us stronger & appreciate what we do have.
I guess I am getting to a point where I wounder if this is meant to be at all... I am sure a lot of parents in our situation think that way at some point or another... Like my Mom used to say: "Everything comes to whom waits".
So we will continue to wait....
Malory
Sunday, April 26, 2009
Wednesday, April 01, 2009
Reflection
I have been reflecting on the past 3 years since we started the adoption process.
Since we have lost our son Liam (still-birth) March 2005 , the brother we promessed Josh, it has been a difficult road. Both Sean & I lost our fathers within 2 months of each other , only a few months after we lost our son. My mother was hospitalized at that same time and almost died. That has also been a rough road for our son Josh. He was excited to be a big brother and so far this has only been a wish because we have no sibling for him thus far. We have had 3 miscarrages since we lost Liam and as I was going to be 40 years old at that time we made a decision to stop our trials at having another biological child & to adopt one instead. Sean & his sister are after all adopted & I have a sister who is adopted & my step sister adopted 2 children from Tailand. As we are more fortunate than the people in those countries of adoption, we have decided to request a girl and to give her a better chance at life & for her to enrich ours.
We have experience a lot of set backs since we started the adoption process, first with China and the expected travel going from 1 yr to 7 years. We then decided to cancel the adoption in China, loose over $8,000. and pursue our adoption with a different country. We researched different countries that Saskatchewan allowes for international adoption and Kazakhstan seem to be a great place to find our daughter. The caregivers care about the children as they would do their own and the country is very concerned & dedicated in finding the right families for their children. After reading some stories of Kazak adoptions, specially of Sally & Izak, we concluded that Kazakhstan was the right place for us.
We started the adoption process for Kazakhstan in late 2007 & since, we have experienced a lot of stress & disapointments. From the Blogs that I have been reading, it appears that stress & disapointments come hand in hand & is a natural process of international adoptions. After all, I have been pregnant several times with 2 full deliveries and one healthy child & we do know for a fact that stress & disapointment comes with pregnancy & childbirth. So perhaps this is the normal process a couple has to go through to experience it all. After all the big man up there knowns what he is doing.
In all I know that once I will be looking into her eyes, face to face, I will forget all the troubles & turbulence that came with the process just as a birth mother does about pregnancy & childbirth the moment she hold her newborn into her arms & be thankful that God has granted us the priviledge of having another child and to honor her birth-mother, who ever she might be.
Until then, I read about Kasakhstan as much as I can so I know what to tell her about her birth country and their traditions and hope she honors them in her own way.
Malory
Since we have lost our son Liam (still-birth) March 2005 , the brother we promessed Josh, it has been a difficult road. Both Sean & I lost our fathers within 2 months of each other , only a few months after we lost our son. My mother was hospitalized at that same time and almost died. That has also been a rough road for our son Josh. He was excited to be a big brother and so far this has only been a wish because we have no sibling for him thus far. We have had 3 miscarrages since we lost Liam and as I was going to be 40 years old at that time we made a decision to stop our trials at having another biological child & to adopt one instead. Sean & his sister are after all adopted & I have a sister who is adopted & my step sister adopted 2 children from Tailand. As we are more fortunate than the people in those countries of adoption, we have decided to request a girl and to give her a better chance at life & for her to enrich ours.
We have experience a lot of set backs since we started the adoption process, first with China and the expected travel going from 1 yr to 7 years. We then decided to cancel the adoption in China, loose over $8,000. and pursue our adoption with a different country. We researched different countries that Saskatchewan allowes for international adoption and Kazakhstan seem to be a great place to find our daughter. The caregivers care about the children as they would do their own and the country is very concerned & dedicated in finding the right families for their children. After reading some stories of Kazak adoptions, specially of Sally & Izak, we concluded that Kazakhstan was the right place for us.
We started the adoption process for Kazakhstan in late 2007 & since, we have experienced a lot of stress & disapointments. From the Blogs that I have been reading, it appears that stress & disapointments come hand in hand & is a natural process of international adoptions. After all, I have been pregnant several times with 2 full deliveries and one healthy child & we do know for a fact that stress & disapointment comes with pregnancy & childbirth. So perhaps this is the normal process a couple has to go through to experience it all. After all the big man up there knowns what he is doing.
In all I know that once I will be looking into her eyes, face to face, I will forget all the troubles & turbulence that came with the process just as a birth mother does about pregnancy & childbirth the moment she hold her newborn into her arms & be thankful that God has granted us the priviledge of having another child and to honor her birth-mother, who ever she might be.
Until then, I read about Kasakhstan as much as I can so I know what to tell her about her birth country and their traditions and hope she honors them in her own way.
Malory
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